3 Ways to Avoid the Valentine’s Funk

I have never been into Valentine’s Day. Never will be. Don’t give a shit. And I have been in a very loving, supportive relationship with my husband for over twenty years. I just don’t buy into Hallmark holidays that revolve around buying more plastic or sugary crap for your loved ones (didn’t we get enough of that at Christmas?!)

For those that don’t feel like me, Valentine’s can be hard. It is another reminder of your loneliness from not having someone to share your life with. Or it could be that you are in a relationship that is abusive or just not serving your highest purpose. Valentine’s can stir up all kinds of emotions for us.

As always, plants are there for us.

3 Ways to Avoid the Valentine’s Funk (Herbalist style)

1.Eat Chocolate, Lots of Chocolate

The darker the better. If it has Rose petals, Raspberry filling, or is dipped on Strawberries- Do it! Rose soothes a broken heart and anything red in color is beneficial to the heart channel and the fire element, which is the element of passion, creativity, and joy.

2.Drink Herbal Tea   

Nutritive herbs like Milky Oats, Skullcap, and Rose petals help keep you relaxed, while reminding you that you are supported and loved. Just add a teaspoon or two of dried herbs to 1 cup of hot water, steep for at least 10 minutes and then enjoy! TIP: Chocolate is a wonderful accompaniment to chocolate and will mellow out the richness of the dark chocolate.

3Phone a Friend  

This is Huge, especially today when we often text instead of call someone. Hearing a friend’s voice can do wonders for the soul when you’re feeling alone or isolated. If you have friends like mine, laughter is sure to follow- and we all know laughter is The best medicine.

As for me tonight I won’t be out at a romantic dinner or welcomed home from work with (chemical laden) roses. I will be happily at home, with my husband, not celebrating Valentine’s Day, but eating chocolate. Lots and lots of chocolate.

With love,

Jessica

when energy flows, wellness grows 

So Much Trouble in the World (thankfully we have herbs for that)

I was all inspired to write about how Chinese New Year is coming up as I celebrate my 43rd year on planet Earth! Then Jussie Smollett was attacked by white terrorists and I have been outraged about how obvious hate crimes are committed daily in the U.S. and there are no repercussions. No fear of retribution when our entire society continues to build upon the foundation that our forefathers set over two hundred years ago; that straight white men are superior

This isn’t going to be a political post but it will be one deeply rooted in the knowledge that we cannot be silent when injustices are so great. We have to redevelop a reverence for all life on Earth and begin to see ourselves as an integral part of the whole, instead of the masters that can destroy at our will. I don’t have the answers to these problems, but I do have some tools. And they are our herbal allies. 

The same plants that we are hell bent on poisoning (dandelions, chickweed, shepherd’s purse and countless others) will be our saving grace. 

When we remember our place in the cosmos, we will once again contribute to the balance between Earth and the Heavens. As long as we forget our connection to each other (much less the rest of nature) there will be wars, famines, hate crimes, and down right ugliness. I refuse to participate in that. Instead I will spread love, hope, and the wisdom of the plants. 

When I asked who wanted to be written about today Rose (Rosa centifolia)came up loud and clear! She loves to open our hearts and minds with her aromatic properties, all the while telling you to watch out if you treat her wrong. Those thorns are medicine in themselves, a warning and also a reminder to be gentle, to be conscious when you interact with others. 

If you’re feeling like I am, you probably need to share a cup of Rose petal tea with someone else and talk through the feelings of despair and disconnection. We all need more love, but what we also need is togetherness. We have to be stronger than this hate. We have to better than this.

Rose Petal Tea

Drop a small handful of dried rose petals in a pint glass. Pour hot water over petals and steep for 15 minutes. Strain out petals and set aside. Drink tea slowly. Add a touch of honey if you need a little sweetness in your life.

Please be nice to each other. And stand up for what you believe in. 

If you want to read more about Rose and other medicinal plants, check out my book Plant Songs:Reflections on Herbal Medicine

With love,

Jessica 

when energy flows, wellness grows